Originally written May 2018
I donât believe negativity, complaining or feeling sorry for yourself gets you very far. Itâs the antithesis of how I choose to live my life and tackle the challenges I face; BUT, I am human – and this is really hard – so forgive me for a second while I bitch.
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Infertility sucks. It really, really sucks. It sucks so much that sometimes I cry randomly, overreact for no reason, or simply donât feel like doing a damn thing (very out of character for me). But itâs all part of the process, I hear. Or perhaps, the hormones taking effect? Probably a combination of both.
Honestly, at times, I feel angry that I have one more thing to manage, another problem to tackle, and canât help but want to scream from the rooftop, âisnât having an incurable illness enough?!â Since Iâm continuing with my venting theme, I feel like I have played my hand with MS to the best of my ability, Iâve tried to make a negative into something positive and to now have infertility problems as a result of the disease, is just hard for me to digest.
But whatâs perhaps the most difficult for me to swallow is that I didnât know that MS couldâve affected my fertility – that I couldâve or shouldâve been trying sooner. That I couldâve had my younger – healthier – eggs frozen ages ago and possibly avoided this. Perhaps I wouldâve done things differently if knowing this sooner. Read more
I will never forget sitting across from my fertility doctor, with Bill by my side, as he delivered news that seemed much like a scene out of a romantic comedy movie gone terribly wrong: âMS has aged your eggs,â he said.
We both sat there staring at him in disbelief. âWhat?! How could that possibly be?â we asked.
âThe progression of your MS has deteriorated the quality of your eggs, which is common with severe autoimmune diseases,â he continued.
Fast forward an hour and our conversation concluded with me asking one final question, âIf I were your family, your loved one, and desperately wanted another baby, what would you recommend?â
He responded, âIVF, without a doubt. And sooner rather than later.â
Well, there you have it.
Just like that, our fertility journey had kicked into overdrive. Neither of us knew what lay ahead in the months to come, but we knew we had to act. 302-643-6264
The last time I posted a blog entry was in May, which I guess was about 5 months ago. Wow, itâs been a long time.
The truth is, our life has been anything but ânormalâ since then, and after much debate, Iâve decided to finally open up about whatâs been going on.
Let me first say that life isnât always rainbows and smiles. Yes, we all know that – and all experience ups and downs – yet it almost seems socially unacceptable to post about anything other than cute babies, delicious meals, or wonderful vacations. Iâll be the first person to admit that I am guilty of that too. I think we can all agree that itâs easier to focus on the good, right? The truth is that talking about personal topics can be painful and even borders on socially inappropriate (some things are just private.. right?). But in the spirit of continuing my transparency around my MS and authentically telling my story in the hopes of helping others, Iâve decided to share this less than âlikeâ worthy news. So here it goes. Read more
Congratulations, youâve joined the club. You know, the one you never wanted to be in – the MS club, that is.
Youâve just got hit with the news and still, even weeks later you canât believe it.
Terrified. Angry. Confused. Your emotions are running high and well, letâs be honest – theyâre flat out out of whack. You likely havenât wrapped your head around it all. I mean, how could you? You just got diagnosed with an incurable illness.
Well, letâs cut to the chase. You do have MS. So, do I. And you know what – Iâm okay and you, my friend, will be too. Read more
Oh, what a night! On Thursday, April 19, over 150 fellow friends, family members and MSers came together for Spring for a Cure, a fundraiser in support of finding a cure for a MS. The drinks were flowing, the music was on point and good vibes were definitely in the air. Together, we raised over $30,000 for the National MS Society and had just a little bit of fun in the process ð Read more
The countdown is on to Spring for a Cure, the fundraiser I am hosting in support of Walk MS and the National MS Society. Tickets are available now for an early-bird price of $90 through TODAY only! Get yours here.Â
This event means a lot to me – you can read more about the inspiration about it here – and Iâm excited to see it all come together!Â I didnât know exactly what I was getting myself into when I decided to do this but itâs turning out to be bigger and better than I couldâve imagined thanks to Loft on Lake, who generously gifted us their incredible space, and 630-917-5009 who has graciously offered their design expertise to truly transform the night. I canât wait to share with you the final result – visually, I think itâs going to be so awesome!Â Read more
It’s been over a year since I started my business and Iâve learned a lot. A lot about entrepreneurship, marketing, client relationships but most importantly, Iâve learned a lot about myself – in particular what I truly value and what motivates me to continue.
When I started SocialChow, I focused on the basics – how to get it off the ground, generate revenue and scale. I placed much of my attention on getting new clients while fine-tuning my process and within six months I had a full plate of work, solid case studies and was projected to earn more than I ever did in the corporate world. It all grew so quickly. I couldnât keep up so I expanded and hired some help. After a year of being âin itâ, Iâve realized a thing or two and most shockingly to me – the ever-eager entrepreneur – that growing a business doesnât actually mean more clients or more revenue. It can actually mean scaling back. Read more
Happy birthday to our Chloe who is 2 today!
We celebrated this past weekend with a CIRCUS at the Shapiro Ballroom. From the games to the dÃ©cor to the party attendees, everything was so much FUN! Check out the amazing photos. Read more
Bill and I recently got back from South Africa where we were lucky enough to experience the trip of a lifetime. While itâs hard to play âfavoritesâ with the places we visited, but our safari will remain one of the coolest experiences weâve ever had. In the middle of seemingly nowhere, we saw everything from lions eating their pray to heards of elephants giving themselves dirt baths to giraffes duke it out.Â Going in, I didnât really know want to expect but having just experienced it, Iâm still in awe. Read more
When I was first diagnosed with MS, I felt like I was stuck â like stuck in quick stand and couldnât get out. Yes, I was obviously terrified, confused, and well, just sadâ¦ but mostly, I hated the fact that I couldnât do anything about the fact that I had this disease. Typically in my life, when I want something, I go after it.. I work really hard to get the results that I am looking for. But, with MS, I felt like I was pushed into a corner and couldnât get out. I was stuck with an incurable illness that came out of nowhere. But, soon after my diagnosis, I realized that even though I couldnât change the fact that I had this disease, I could change my behaviorâ¦ my outlookâ¦ I could change my reaction.
All of my activism work, healthy eating and lifestyle changes started once I realized that I did have control over my own actions on how I tackled the disease. I could change my outlook and food intake, I could get on a medication, I could get advice and direction from the best doctors, and I could fight for a cure through awareness, activism and helping others. I was adamant that I would not take this diagnosis and fall. I would prevail and continue to move my life forward in the best way I knew how.Â school clerk